After years of marriage or relationship with your partner, can you certainly say that you were never in contempt? Well, to define the word.. to be willfully disobedient.
Meeting men during a marriage, or relationship can pose danger to women. It may start with infatuation and grow as deep as fantasizing… even worst being physically involved. How does it feel? As for me, I’m telling you… it was an emotional roller coaster every single tic tac of the clock. My head told me completely different things than my true feelings did. It does take Hercules’ strengths to stay within focus, be objective, and not loose the sight of a greater picture rather than just looking at that precious flirty moment of a temporary “feel-good” factor. The organ called “heart” was the most difficult to convince. You had to whisper “do not give in to temptation” 1 million times. We all know that it is impossible to allow yourself to get attracted to another man while still remain faithful to your partner. One hint of attraction is equivalent to a point of evil (but you can pray that it wouldn’t be… or convince yourself that it is not until you find yourself next to the man’s chest on a hot tub).
However, we can always assess ourselves and do a personal analysis… find out why are you feeling like this in the first place… what consequences could bring this attraction to you?
Quite often as you can think, a woman may have felt something with another man. One friend said that she shared worry-free, fun and relaxed moments with him… and being with her husband or partner, she has to deal with tons of problems and stressful worries as soon as they start a conversation, which has a greater probability of resulting into a fight.
Despite all odds, we have to recognized that instead of living in Hello Kitty’s dream world and “execute” a lot of fantasizing about the man, we have to snap out off it. Think about the deepest commitment. We can never be happy if we were creating our happiness at the cost of hurting our partners.
But this doesn’t mean just because you are married or locked up in a serious relationship, you automatically stop turning your head to other men or even feel any attraction. But be conscious about your actions that they will not hurt your partner… that you absolutely respect and love him. Resistance to something that feels good kills but I’m still holding tight to cross my fingers. ^^
