A lot of things frustrates us and first on the list is having our parents try to run our lives (even if you are already married!). As a person, it is a common act to find your own place in the world. Of course we love to make decisions for ourselves… we wouldn’t care if those choices are good ones or bad.
Parents have been there… teen years… married life… and any other life there can be… therefore, we expect them to know that we often need to make mistakes to learn from them. Now why in the hell they can’t just sit back and let us live our “might-be-miserable” lives?
One simple reason… because they love us.
It’s hard to understand (or we just refuse to understand most of the time). But come to think of it… parents find it physically and emotionally distressing to know that their children are up to things that could do them harm. This causes anxiety which makes them act more strictly (as if they’re militia!) towards us. Believe me. It’s definitely a vicious circle. They fear that we will suffer from any danger or be confronted with more problems as a result of the choices that we make, thus they will definitely run with utmost interference. Hahhhh… parental nature.
How to stop it? Just one thing to do; foster some trust. Behave. Be open. Give them an idea of how we think. Show them that we listen (or pretend to listen to make the sermon shorter… ^^). Appreciate the values they have worked hard all these years to instill in us. Agree even if you disagree. Sacrifice on our part demonstrates respect for our parents.
Respect is a vital part of building trust. Work with it to get it.
