Are You Having A Cyber Affair?

The Internet is one big technical progress to our civilization, however it also becomes one of the easiest mediums to pornography and, worst, have Internet affairs. Cyber sex is one popular “relationship crime” to commit. In fact, 8-10% of Internet users are addicted to cyber sex and about one third of couple separation and divorce litigation is ignited by these so called online affairs.

Now we are confronted with bigger questions; Is cyber sex a form of cheating? Is it considered adultery? What should a person do if there is a suspicion that your spouse is having an online affair? Is cyber affair a real affair? With our modern times, is it that really easy to cross the line?

A wife was interviewed on this matter and here is what she had to say:

“My husband is spending long hours on the computer in his office and when I’d walk in, he’d be switching so I couldn’t see what he was doing. He’d say he was working. And then I had gotten a picture sent to me from my sister and I’m not very computer literate, and I was checking the computer to find out where I put the picture when I downloaded it. I started finding pictures that he had – some very interesting photos.”

Finding things out, the wife installed a software package on the computer that she and her husband shared. It kept track every inch of activity on the computer from e-mails, instant messages, web sites often visited and even a single keystroke made from that computer. Reports were automatically emailed to her and that’s how she caught him.

That triggered her. She started making copies of everything that was going on as she planned to set him up by pretending that she was somebody with a different name. She was able to have a friendly conversation with him at first. It was for quite a while and then the husband started to shell out his behavior which made her find out exactly what he was doing and what he was saying.

But other people contradicts the idea that this form of activity is an affair. They reason out that no body fluids exchanged… no penetration with sticky keys… when you are “typing”, you are literally typing. Why does a person enjoy pornography? Why does a person engage himself in cyber sex? Why does one enjoy “flirty” chats? Why divert the wrong way?

All of us should consider the fact that there might be a problem in our relationships or marriages because if there was none, one wouldn’t be probably making love to a computer. Most men’s opinion: Cyber affairs are harmless. Do you think so? I think it’s getting close to the edge… which at times, definitely hard to resist.