Are You Having A Cyber Affair?

The Internet is one big technical progress to our civilization, however it also becomes one of the easiest mediums to pornography and, worst, have Internet affairs. Cyber sex is one popular “relationship crime” to commit. In fact, 8-10% of Internet users are addicted to cyber sex and about one third of couple separation and divorce litigation is ignited by these so called online affairs.

Now we are confronted with bigger questions; Is cyber sex a form of cheating? Is it considered adultery? What should a person do if there is a suspicion that your spouse is having an online affair? Is cyber affair a real affair? With our modern times, is it that really easy to cross the line?

A wife was interviewed on this matter and here is what she had to say:

“My husband is spending long hours on the computer in his office and when I’d walk in, he’d be switching so I couldn’t see what he was doing. He’d say he was working. And then I had gotten a picture sent to me from my sister and I’m not very computer literate, and I was checking the computer to find out where I put the picture when I downloaded it. I started finding pictures that he had – some very interesting photos.”

Finding things out, the wife installed a software package on the computer that she and her husband shared. It kept track every inch of activity on the computer from e-mails, instant messages, web sites often visited and even a single keystroke made from that computer. Reports were automatically emailed to her and that’s how she caught him.

That triggered her. She started making copies of everything that was going on as she planned to set him up by pretending that she was somebody with a different name. She was able to have a friendly conversation with him at first. It was for quite a while and then the husband started to shell out his behavior which made her find out exactly what he was doing and what he was saying.

But other people contradicts the idea that this form of activity is an affair. They reason out that no body fluids exchanged… no penetration with sticky keys… when you are “typing”, you are literally typing. Why does a person enjoy pornography? Why does a person engage himself in cyber sex? Why does one enjoy “flirty” chats? Why divert the wrong way?

All of us should consider the fact that there might be a problem in our relationships or marriages because if there was none, one wouldn’t be probably making love to a computer. Most men’s opinion: Cyber affairs are harmless. Do you think so? I think it’s getting close to the edge… which at times, definitely hard to resist.

Holding “The Notebook”

While blogging early this morning, sipping a cup of hot malt, I thought about what movie should I be watching for today (as a part of my undying accent training for some work…).  I feel dramatically “senti” today as I woke up too early out of sleeplessness. I cried so hard out of pity for Ejay… PBB… teen plus… you know? Kinda hooked up here! Also I think some soul must be thinking about me… hehehe!. After looking for a few links, I finally chose a movie which I happened to watch years ago. The pic is your clue.

In all honesty, my uncle paid me to go see The Notebook with my friends because he kept saying how magnificent it was. I went because it was free and with no expectations at all. However, The Notebook drew me into the story from the beginning right up until the credits – and then kept me crying for quite some time after it had ended.

I, along with almost every other person i have discussed the movie with, felt involved in the situations and the lives of the character… crying at the sad moments and feeling joy at the happy bits.

In general, love stories are predictable and somewhat dull (well… in my opinion. I have had all the drama in my life of course!) yet this movie kept me guessing at the outcome and delivered twists throughout the whole film. The Notebook was extremely well constructed and I would give it an eleven-out-of-ten stars… a truly unremarkable film (aside from Notting Hill which I am proud to shout out aloud that I’ve watched it 27 times… ^^).

Life After Your Ideal Diet

Dieting is tough, but backsliding is what really discourages people. As soon as they give up their crash diets, reducing pills, plastic suits, and rigorous exercise, they tend to drift back into their old habits and put pounds right back on.

The ideal weight, as a rule of the thumb, should be to allow 100 pounds for a woman five feet tall and then add five pounds for every inch over that height. For a man, allow 106 pounds for five feet of height and then add six pounds for every inch over that. Actually, your ideal weight is the weight at which you can feel and function at your best, so it could be higher or lower than the tables suggest.

As a home based entrepreneur and a writer, I am not actively engaged in physical activity, so my diet must be even more restricted to achieve weight maintenance. I always plan to enroll in an exercise program (boxing is my utmost choice!), but the plan remains a plan even until now.

There are four techniques which I use to restructure my eating habits to sustain my ideal weight without too much deprivation. It is basically mind over matter!

1. Keep and inventory of what you eat or drink for one week.

List everything down. This may be tiring and nonsense but believe me, it makes sense at all. If you are eating more than you should, cut the calories down.

2. Change your attitude toward food.

Keep in mind that innocent-looking temptations can be culprits (oh… like flirt men, you know! ^^). Fact is you can gain three and a half pounds a year by adding a pat of butter or margarine to your toast everyday; and three pounds a tear by adding just two teaspoons of sugar to your fave hot drink everyday (it breaks my heart to take unsweetened Milo malt… grrr… mind over matter…).

3. Change your food preparation.

Broiling food instead of frying it can reduce as many as 200 calories per serving. Eating a baked potato instead of 20 french fries saves 35 calories. A poached or boiled egg contains 35 calories fewer than a fried egg. When opting for salads, go for fruits and veggies instead of canned fruits. Sprinkle lemon juice on these salads instead of salad dressings.

4 . Put temptation behind you.

Don’t watch “foody witch” TV commercials (hahaha! Close your eyes instead). Don’t go to supermarkets when you’re hungry. While at work, don’t carry loose change for creepy stuff to buy. Don’t snack for pastries during break. Take a walk instead. At home, use smaller plates. Eat slowly pleaseeee… and chew properly!

I do things this way to achieve an ideal weight which results to an ideal look. Friends may say I’m drowning in vanity or wandering in paranoia. But doing this makes me feel good… and looking good is a plus!