Handling Jealousy

When it feels like the competition is closing in… it’s either you defy or get consumed by it.

For me, jealousy strikes anytime. Who says it is good to feel hanging on air for the longest time? It is not easy to ignore the problem even if you spend considerable time brooding over the matter. But still, it is one of the most difficult things to cope with. We just could not make the changes we wanted for ourselves. We could not change the person the way we want them to be. Any help? Certainly there are some ways which can greatly help.

1. Admit that you are jealous. – I think jealousy eats me, makes me unhappy, hostile and other worst adjective available. So then, tell yourself, “I am jealous and it is normal.”

2. Learn to like yourself. – Mostly, we are dissatisfied because we tend to compare ourselves to others. Love yourself. We are all unique.

3. Make a list of your assets. – Be surprised at the results and appreciate who you really are. Alongside, list your liabilities and stop being egoistic.

4. Don’t dwell on self. – Reach out to other people. Try not to keep your mind closed and “pea-sized.” Enjoy a wide circle of friends because people who care about others are seldom jealous.

5. Take a look at the other side. – Are you happy overvaluing the traits of the other person? Be realistic. He or she is not perfect at all. Everyone is fighting some type of uphill struggle.

6. Be objective about happiness. – You are not a failure if you are not like this or that. Put everything into perspective. If you’re not that beautiful, flaunt your bubbly personality. That way, you can be considered as equally pretty as the person you envy.

Deal with the symptoms. Deal with the problem. Take over the varying shades of green.